January 3, 2016
Asking for advice is never easy. Be there for someone when they ask you for it.
Every now and then someone might stop you and ask for advice. Sometimes, due to your own issues, you either dismiss the person or you try to quickly resolve the person’s issues without truly hearing what they have to say. What you might not realize is that what you say to someone asking for advice really matters.
If you don’t feel like answering their question thoughtfully say you can’t answer them at the moment and give them an expected response time. If you take the time to give them an appropriate response not only will it strengthen your relationship with this person, it might just be the most important support they receive in their time of need.
A lot of people come to me with stories of advice asking or asking someone to be a mentor that have gone wrong. The main issue always comes down to the fact that the person they wanted the advice from either had no time for them or wanted something from them in return. If you are an advice giver, please do this selflessly. The last thing a person needs when they are in any kind of dilemma is someone wanting something back from them.