January 2, 2016
Confidence and Insecurity
I think there are times when good or even great things happen in someone’s life and for a while, you can ride the wave of that accomplishment thinking that everything is finally ok. You think to yourself, “Now that you’ve gotten here, you won’t have time to let insecurity creep in.” The reality is no single event or set of events can set you free of insecurity. Being 100% confident with no second-guessing oneself, in my opinion is never actually attainable. We are all messes and everyone has a problem. I think it is funny that in many cultures we are taught to hide that mess, whether it is in the closet, under the bed, under the sink, or deep inside ourselves.
There is a book called “Everyone Poops” by Taro Gomi that I think all of us should make sure to pick up and read. Just like everyone poops, everyone has a bad day, month, year, or even decade. We all probably know someone that has been complaining for that long. I think acknowledging insecurity, a bad day, or bad timing and reminding yourself to release that negativity is an important step to being able to keep it moving. Knowing that tomorrow will be a day to try again is what matters. Learning to love yourself enough to make that an acceptable answer is what you need to work on.